We all tend to resist stuff that comes up in our lives. Human resistors to whatever the universe wants. We are great thinkers and planners and we set out in our minds how our days will go. How events will pan out. We make a movie in our minds of what it will all look like right down to the finest detail. We like control. It makes us feel safe in our place on this earth. We like to compartmentalise and box things, putting them in order for our own emotional security. We plan our photographic shoots. We imagine how the weather will be. How gently the breeze will blow, what colour the sky will be and what our final image will look like. I have done this so many times only to find that the sky is not how I imagined. That the wind is blowing the wrong way and I realise I have to surrender to how it is at that moment.
We resist when things do not go according to our own mind movie script. We resist when things do not fit into the boxes we have created….but guess what…sometimes you have to go with the flow. You have to surrender to what is and stop trying to control everything. This resistance is what causes our stress. You really have no idea what might happen in your life in the next hour, or day, or year.
Life is like swimming in the ocean. If you resist the wave it knocks you over and sends you tumbling not knowing which way is up. You are dumped on the sand trying to catch your breath and retain your dignity. Recently in my life I have had to learn to go with the flow in many ways. I have been tested enormously and when I have resisted what has come my way I have found myself reeling and tumbling. A good, but small example is that I have needed to change my car. I have driven a Land Cruiser for the last ten years but I no longer need such a big car. I like white. It’s my colour choice for cars. It’s one of my boxes. So I make arrangements with a friend who owns a dealership to trade in my big old car and get myself a new small run around. He arrives with a car to show me and it is red! Now this is way out of my comfort zone. Way way out of it. However this car has extras that I will get without any cost to me. Big extras….but my comfort zone!!!!
Do I wait another few months for a white one so that life can fit into my box or do I go with what the universe has offered me? Do I surrender to what is or do I resist. The universe has offered me an a beautiful car with more than I asked for but in order to benefit I have to let go of my preconceived ideas.
So I am pushing my boundaries and leaving my comfort zone, after all, life happens beyond our comfort zone.
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